The 24-year-old OnlyFans creator says her new boyfriend loves her for who she is, not because of her job, and even left her a gift after one controversial shoot
In late 2024, Lily Phillips went viral after revealing that she had slept with 101 men in a single day. The claim brought her a huge amount of attention online and made her one of the most talked-about adult creators of the moment.
Now, though, she says her personal life looks very different, as she is in a monogamous relationship with her boyfriend, Sammy. Away from work, Lily says he is the only man in her romantic life.
Of course, her adult content career is still part of the picture. But when it comes to her actual relationship, Lily says she and Sammy have built clear lines around what is work and what belongs only to them.
Sammy is said to be completely “understanding” about Lily working in the adult industry, but he has still set one clear boundary for their relationship. Lily does not seem bothered by that, and said she understands why limits matter.
After all, every relationship needs boundaries so both people feel safe, respected, and secure. That applies whether someone works on OnlyFans or has a much more private job.
Sammy met Lily through a mutual friend, Annie Knight, who has been called “Australia’s most sexually active woman.” So it is fair to say he already knew what kind of work Lily did before they became boyfriend and girlfriend.
Lily Phillips confirmed she was in a relationship on her Instagram storiesLily Phillips
“He’s the most understanding, caring, thoughtful person ever – he’s more on the sensitive side,” Lily told Metro.
“I’m not someone who would go for toxic masculinity because I don’t think we’d gel well with my job anyway.”
Lily said her job has not caused problems between them. According to her, Sammy’s main concern is that she stays “safe and happy,” rather than trying to control the work she does.
Still, Sammy did ask for one boundary while Lily continues working: she does not kiss other men. For Lily, that request is not a problem, and she said kissing feels more personal to her than other parts of the job.
“I’m the type of person who finds kissing quite intimate, so I’m happy to save that for my relationship,” she explained.
“Otherwise it’s just my job – I go to work and then I come home to him.”
Lily Phillips is known for her sexual stuntsInstagram/@lilyphillip_s
In fact, Lily said Sammy once left her a box of chocolates and a card on her bed after she came home from working a gangbang. The message in the card read: “I’m so proud of you for working so hard.”
The pair had met just over two months earlier, and Lily said she fancied him “straight away.” She added that they got on “like a house on fire” and have been staying in the same house together since then.
The OnlyFans star has introduced Sammy to her private parents.Instagram/@lilyphillip_s
Sammy planned to follow the creator back to England at the start of the following month and intended to live with her. For Lily, that showed the relationship was moving quickly, but also that both of them were serious about making it work.
The 24-year-old added that Sammy, 27, has already met her parents on FaceTime. She also said he “has his own money” and loves her “not because of my job,” which she said has meant a lot to her.
“It’s so nice and validating that someone does love me and I was put on this planet for a reason,” Lily said.
“I used to be so monetary and cared so much about the stupidest things, now I just feel grateful for everything in my life.”
Lily’s comments show how much she values being accepted outside of the persona people see online. Her work may be public and explicit, but she said her relationship with Sammy is based on something more private and steady.
The no-kissing rule also makes the line between work and romance clearer for them. Lily said sex work is her job, but kissing is something she prefers to keep for her relationship, which gives Sammy one part of intimacy that stays separate from her content.
Her situation also points to a wider issue for adult creators, who often have to deal with people assuming their work makes normal relationships impossible. Lily’s view is that the right partner can understand the job without making her feel ashamed of it.
What have other adult stars said about how their career affects their relationships?
Mia Khalifa
Khalifa, who became infamous in 2014 after filming a sexual scene in a hijab, said in an interview last year that she has only had two relationships in 10 years.
She told The Adam Friedland Show: “I can’t even like mentally get past somebody wanting to be with me for the novelty or for that reason [because of her famous porn scene]. So, I’d much rather just be alone.”
Mia Khalifa says her career left her with trust issuesInstagram/@miakhalifa
Riley Reid
During a 2018 episode of the Impaulsive podcast, Reid said one of her former partners made her feel as though she should leave the adult industry. She described how his reaction affected the way she saw herself.
She said: “He didn’t want to kiss me when I came home from work.”
“So, like, [it] made me feel like a disgusting person.”
Reid has spoken about the effects that her career has had on her private lifeInstagram/RileyReid
Sky Bri
Sky Bri also spoke about the difficulty of dating while having a public adult-content career. Speaking on Mommy Daddy Talk, she said: “I’m actually going to be single for the rest of my life.”
“Actually, OK – not for the rest of my life. But I think for the rest of my social-media-influencer adult internet persona life.”
“Because it’s just too much. And if I were ever to get into another relationship, it would be kept completely private.”
“I will never post a guy or have anything public, because I don’t want public opinion.”
Instagram/@realskybri
Lana Rhoades
Lana Rhoades has also warned young women about entering porn. In an X post back in 2020, she wrote: “Your bf’s will tell you that know [sic] one else will ever love you bc of your past, and it [will] be held over you everyday of your life.”
Lana Rhoades advised women not to get into pornInstagram/lanarhoades